My Commitment to Success

From the books I read eg Built to Last, One minute Millionaire, to attending seminars of great mentors such as Robert Kiyosaki, T. Harv Eker, Blair Singer.. and learning from successful entrepreneurs, I have learnt that the basic principles to success is creating successful habits such as being punctual, keeping small agreements and being focused can help one to be successful in whatever they have set themselves to achieve.

I have always committed myself in my business as the first priority in my life. I make sure that I keep my words to the smallest agreements I made especially to my team and my clients. Being in sales for 15 years, I believe I have built a reputation within my team and my clients that I will always be there for them whenever they need me and hence, bringing in sales has been effortless especially with my existing clients as the trust they have in me have made that possible. I am always committed to be early to all my Agency meetings or appointments and will always be prepared even to the smallest presentations I ever have to make. I am grateful and thankful for the successful friends I have around me that has been an inspiration to be what I am today.

But lately, I began questioning myself for the team I am surrounded with. What's wrong with people these days? Everyone wants success but yet so many are struggling to even make RM2000 per month income with their low commitment to success and yet they wonder why when all they need to do is just do the basic principles to success. Seriously, how can one be getting what they want when they can't commit themselves to give priority to the things that can give them the cash that they want??? When there's a meeting, team members seem to take turns not to be in meetings or turn up late in appointments and every reason given for not turning up and late seems to be so insignificant. Yesterday night, one of my agents called me to let me know that she can't come for this tuesday meeting for some function that has nothing to do with her business and yet, this is one of the agents who complains to me that she has not enough monthly income to support her expenses.

 My commitment to my business is that, I'll always be ready to do whatever it takes to be successful. One of the things I committed is that whenever company have any grand functions I will make sure I'll be there as I know that whatever company has prepared, it is to help us to be more successful and so far, none of the grand functions I have attended have failed me. I remember beginning this year, company had an annual function in Hatyai, Thailand. I was 3 months pregnant and on the day before going to Hatyai, I realize I was bleeding and quickly visited my Gynae. My doctor advise me not to go as I was going through a miscarriage and flying to Hatyai is a very very bad idea. Due to my commitment, I asked my doctor if there's anything I can do to prevent the miscarriage as I will still go no matter what. Doctor shook his head and prescribed me some medicine and warned me not to move about so much and be ready to be hospitalised if needed. I went and thank God, even though i was still bleeding when I was there, the miscarriage occurred only when I came back. I know this is dangerous but I also know that  I am very committed to becoming successful. One should do whatever it takes to be successful. Every reasons given for not being successful can also be reasons why they have to be successful.

This morning, something strike me!!! There's nothing wrong with some of my team members. If my people are not doing well, it's my fault!!! They made me realized that I have not been very committed to business and the results I have aimed to achieved. What happened to my commitment to help others to achieve their goals? Who am I to tell them to be committed to their results when I have not been doing so. If I am the only one who has been making the money in my team, isn't it my responsibility to help the rest to do so? If the current team members are not committed, isn't it my responsibility to bring in new members who are committed? What happened to some of the things I have been sharing to others that I have not been practicing? I have learnt over the years that there are things that is within my control vs things that are not within my control eg if it rains, I can't control the weather but if I still need to make appointments to see my clients, I can control by using an umbrella to avoid the rain. I can't control the behaviours of my team members but what I can control is bringing in more committed new members.

Today's new goal is bring in 10 new committed member into my team before September 2011 and I will do whatever it takes to do so. I am grateful and thankful of the learning I gain from these people. I am also grateful and thankful as I will bring in more successes this year....

Do you know what happened after the Tortoise won the Rabbit in the race?

Have you heard of the story of The Tortoise and The Rabbit? They story ended with tortoise winning the race as the rabbit slept in the middle of the race because the rabbit was over confident of winning the race. The morale of the story was not to be over confident and take things for granted even when you are very good at what you do. Always be prepared to be on your toes in whatever you do in a race if you objective is to win the game. That was the first part of the story I heard when I was a child. 

Few years back, I learnt that there were four parts of the story. The classic was just the first part where the tortoise won the race. After the tortoise won the race, it got the rabbit thinking hard. Rabbit started to review back his doings and realized that his biggest mistake was being overconfident and slept in the middle of the race. After much thinking, the rabbit decided to change himself and went asking the tortoise for the next race. Tortoise agreed and the went for another race. This round, the rabbit didn't sleep in the middle of the race and rabbit won the race. The morale of the story : If you are able to learn from your mistake and change for good, you can still win the race.

After losing the 2nd race, the tortoise went back and started reviewing the race. He thoughts for many days and knowing he can never outrun the rabbit, he have to think of other ways to win the race. Finally an idea struck him and he went looking for the rabbit for another race. The tortoise challenged the rabbit for another race with the condition that he gets to set the route of the race. Being confident as usual, the rabbit agreed to the race. When the race started, the rabbit ran as fast as he can and didn't stop for any rest. After awhile, he stopped. There was a river and the rabbit couldn't swim. As the rabbit is thinking all ways to cross the river, the tortoise cam slow and steady; swam over the river and won the race. The morale of the story, no matter how disadvantage in a situation you are in, as long as you are willing to think and strategize, you will also win the race.

After sometime, the rabbit and tortoise kind of became very close friends and they decided to have one more race. This time, they decided to collaborate. Using the same route, the rabbit carried the tortoise with his fastest speed and ran until they came to the river and then, the tortoise carried the rabbit across the river and they both finish the race at the fastest speed they have never thought of. The morale of the story, if you can collaborate and have great team work, you will be able to win big in your race. 

Today I felt very happy. I finally saw my team coming together after obstacles and challenges I faced and somehow, reminded of this story. I can feel the essence of my team members and with the teamwork they are showing now, I believe we will win big. I thank you Universe for the blessings...

Paradigm..

The past two days has been great as I was spending time learning how to download songs online. I have managed to download many new songs that I like. I burn it into a CD so that my mornings driving to work can be more interesting. I have always feel that music plays a very important role in my life. Times when I want to work towards my goals, I listen to songs which make me feel like a movie star that's gonna rock the world. Times when I feel like I am just working like a robot, I will listen to some slower songs which let me think of things I can do to help others who are less fortunate than me. Well... music has been quite a role in my life.

I am very blessed as my career gave me the choice to choose when I can go to my office. I have to wake up every morning and make sure I get my son to school by 8am. I usually will just go somewhere nearby to have breakfast and take my time so that when I drive up to town, which is half an hour away from my house, to avoid all the jams and rushing with people who are working at regular office hours. Traffic jams are normally gone after 9.30am.

I used to hate driving up to town at 8am as cars are moving so slow and it seems like taking longer time to reach my office. I used to whine, complain and.... erm... sometimes curse crazy drivers who cut queues (nto thinking that I sometimes do that too).

Well... for the past one month, I have been appreciating the jams. I have a new thing that I did when my car stopped at red lights. I have my make up pouch and have been doing my make ups in my car. I know this is weird and I should have just get my make up on at home but... it has given me a new paradigm. I have been more patient with traffics and today, having new nice songs in my car, I have been enjoying my drive to work. I realized that the situation is still the same every morning but yet, my moods and feeling towards the drive to work is already different.

I learnt something from this though. There are lots of situations in life eg.. work, career, politics, family disagreements... you name it... lots of situations each and every one of us have to go through. Last year was a challenging year for me as my office was filled with politics which has drained me but when I start looking at things from another perspective just like the drive towards office in the mornings, things changed. I realized things change when our paradigm shift. I recall my success from many many years back that it was feeling good about myself and goals and dreams which help me where I am today. Every time when things are not going the way it is suppose to be and it is not within my control... just shift my paradigm. It has helped so much in my past and it is working for me this year and I want to remember this for the rest of my life that I can be happy and achieve what I want in life especially when things are not going the way I want it.
Just shift my PARADIGM......

Discovery through games

One of the things I still enjoy doing despite being an 'adult' is playing games (computer/handphone). There is this game called Fotoquest where photographer will go into the sea to take pictures of fishes. The more fishes being taken in a single photo, the more points are accumulated. Different kind of fish will score different kind of scores. When I initially played the game, I used to get an average score of 30,000 which I thought it was a great score but there was once, I accidentally realised that there were a breed of fish which will hide at the same coral after every photo taking. The fishes will not go anywhere else except the same coral if photos were taken every single time they came out from the coral. So much so, every time if you take the pictures even a new fish of the same kind comes in, they'll be doing the same. If the numbers of fish are more at a single shot, the points will be more. My highest score using this method was 200,000, which was more than 6 times the average score after I knew that. Ever since then, every time I play using that method, my scores were never below 30,000.

I learnt a very important lesson which I have been applying in my life especially in my line of business which I feel a lot of people fail to understand. Ever wonder why some people are making more money than others? Ever wonder why some people are better in their production than others? Ever wonder why some people have better results than others? Ever wonder why some people have a better lifestyle than others? I often hear some people who are broke or unsuccessful in anything they do blaming on luck. It is always,"Maybe they are luckier" but seriously, I know one thing for sure, if someone is doing far better than me, it is not because I am stupid or out of luck. It is just because they know how to do it and I haven't found out how to do so yet. If I am persistent enough to learn the trick how to do it, I will be as good as them or even better. Sometimes it takes time to know how, that's why being persistent to learn is very important. Sometimes it takes a shorter time to know how if I can find a mentor who knows how. One thing for sure is that, once I know how, I will forever know how and can never go back to the times when I am under performing.

Just like the score for the Fotoquest game that I played. I can never score lower than what I used to score unless I purposely do so.....

Conversation with God

This is something one of my friends shared which I intend to remember forever...

I have been asked many times the following question, "When is it 'disempowering' to offer help to a friend, family member, a loved one or a fellow colleague?"
My answer most of the time is, "I have no specific answer to the question unless I understand the full context of the situation." and sometimes my answer perturbed some people!

Yesterday, while reading Conversations with God, Book 2 by Neale Donald Walsch, I got the answer at Page 161.Neale Donald Walsch asked God:When is it disempowering to offer help? When does it work against, rather than for, another's growth?" God replied:When your help is offered in such a way that it creates continued dependence, rather than rapid independence. When you allow another, in the name of compassion, to begin to rely on you rather on themselves. That is not compassion, that is compulsion. You have a power of compulsion. Because that sort of helping is really power-tripping.

Now, this distinction can be very subtle here, and sometimes you don't even know you are power-tripping. You really believe you are simply doing your best to help another... yet be careful that you are not simply seeking to create your own self worth. For to the extent that you allow other persons to make YOU responsible for them, to that extent you have allowed them to make you powerful. And that, of course, makes you feel worthy.Yet, this kind of help is an aphrodisiac which seduces the weak. The goal is to help the weak grow strong, not to let the weak becomes weaker. Earlier, in the same book, on Page 159, God says the following;Oh, yes - what to do with the less fortunate.

First, decide Who and What You Are in Relationship to them. Second, if you decide you wish to experience yourself as being Succor, as being Help, as being Love, and Compassion and Caring, then look to see how you can best be those things. And notice that your ability to be those things has nothing to do with what others are being or doing.Sometimes, the best way to love someone, and the most help you can give, is to leave them alone or empower them to help themselves. It is like a feast. Life is a smogasboard, and you can give them a big helping of themselves.

Remember that the greatest help you can give a person is to wake them up, to remind them of Who They Really Are. There are many ways to do this. Sometimes with a little bit of help; a push, a shove, a nudge... and sometimes with a decision to let them run their course, follow their path, walk their walk, without any interference or intervention from you. (All parents know about this choice and agonize over it daily.)What you have the opportunity to do for the less fortunate is to re-mind them. That is, cause them to be of a New Mind about themselves. And you, too, have to be of a New Mind about them, for if you see them as an unfortunate, they will.
For more details, I highly recommend that you get and read all the three books of Conversation with God and visit the website at http://www.cwg.org/This is what I feel like sharing.

With love and passion...
Stay driven!
Moonshi