Conversation with God

This is something one of my friends shared which I intend to remember forever...

I have been asked many times the following question, "When is it 'disempowering' to offer help to a friend, family member, a loved one or a fellow colleague?"
My answer most of the time is, "I have no specific answer to the question unless I understand the full context of the situation." and sometimes my answer perturbed some people!

Yesterday, while reading Conversations with God, Book 2 by Neale Donald Walsch, I got the answer at Page 161.Neale Donald Walsch asked God:When is it disempowering to offer help? When does it work against, rather than for, another's growth?" God replied:When your help is offered in such a way that it creates continued dependence, rather than rapid independence. When you allow another, in the name of compassion, to begin to rely on you rather on themselves. That is not compassion, that is compulsion. You have a power of compulsion. Because that sort of helping is really power-tripping.

Now, this distinction can be very subtle here, and sometimes you don't even know you are power-tripping. You really believe you are simply doing your best to help another... yet be careful that you are not simply seeking to create your own self worth. For to the extent that you allow other persons to make YOU responsible for them, to that extent you have allowed them to make you powerful. And that, of course, makes you feel worthy.Yet, this kind of help is an aphrodisiac which seduces the weak. The goal is to help the weak grow strong, not to let the weak becomes weaker. Earlier, in the same book, on Page 159, God says the following;Oh, yes - what to do with the less fortunate.

First, decide Who and What You Are in Relationship to them. Second, if you decide you wish to experience yourself as being Succor, as being Help, as being Love, and Compassion and Caring, then look to see how you can best be those things. And notice that your ability to be those things has nothing to do with what others are being or doing.Sometimes, the best way to love someone, and the most help you can give, is to leave them alone or empower them to help themselves. It is like a feast. Life is a smogasboard, and you can give them a big helping of themselves.

Remember that the greatest help you can give a person is to wake them up, to remind them of Who They Really Are. There are many ways to do this. Sometimes with a little bit of help; a push, a shove, a nudge... and sometimes with a decision to let them run their course, follow their path, walk their walk, without any interference or intervention from you. (All parents know about this choice and agonize over it daily.)What you have the opportunity to do for the less fortunate is to re-mind them. That is, cause them to be of a New Mind about themselves. And you, too, have to be of a New Mind about them, for if you see them as an unfortunate, they will.
For more details, I highly recommend that you get and read all the three books of Conversation with God and visit the website at http://www.cwg.org/This is what I feel like sharing.

With love and passion...
Stay driven!
Moonshi