Paradigm..

The past two days has been great as I was spending time learning how to download songs online. I have managed to download many new songs that I like. I burn it into a CD so that my mornings driving to work can be more interesting. I have always feel that music plays a very important role in my life. Times when I want to work towards my goals, I listen to songs which make me feel like a movie star that's gonna rock the world. Times when I feel like I am just working like a robot, I will listen to some slower songs which let me think of things I can do to help others who are less fortunate than me. Well... music has been quite a role in my life.

I am very blessed as my career gave me the choice to choose when I can go to my office. I have to wake up every morning and make sure I get my son to school by 8am. I usually will just go somewhere nearby to have breakfast and take my time so that when I drive up to town, which is half an hour away from my house, to avoid all the jams and rushing with people who are working at regular office hours. Traffic jams are normally gone after 9.30am.

I used to hate driving up to town at 8am as cars are moving so slow and it seems like taking longer time to reach my office. I used to whine, complain and.... erm... sometimes curse crazy drivers who cut queues (nto thinking that I sometimes do that too).

Well... for the past one month, I have been appreciating the jams. I have a new thing that I did when my car stopped at red lights. I have my make up pouch and have been doing my make ups in my car. I know this is weird and I should have just get my make up on at home but... it has given me a new paradigm. I have been more patient with traffics and today, having new nice songs in my car, I have been enjoying my drive to work. I realized that the situation is still the same every morning but yet, my moods and feeling towards the drive to work is already different.

I learnt something from this though. There are lots of situations in life eg.. work, career, politics, family disagreements... you name it... lots of situations each and every one of us have to go through. Last year was a challenging year for me as my office was filled with politics which has drained me but when I start looking at things from another perspective just like the drive towards office in the mornings, things changed. I realized things change when our paradigm shift. I recall my success from many many years back that it was feeling good about myself and goals and dreams which help me where I am today. Every time when things are not going the way it is suppose to be and it is not within my control... just shift my paradigm. It has helped so much in my past and it is working for me this year and I want to remember this for the rest of my life that I can be happy and achieve what I want in life especially when things are not going the way I want it.
Just shift my PARADIGM......

Discovery through games

One of the things I still enjoy doing despite being an 'adult' is playing games (computer/handphone). There is this game called Fotoquest where photographer will go into the sea to take pictures of fishes. The more fishes being taken in a single photo, the more points are accumulated. Different kind of fish will score different kind of scores. When I initially played the game, I used to get an average score of 30,000 which I thought it was a great score but there was once, I accidentally realised that there were a breed of fish which will hide at the same coral after every photo taking. The fishes will not go anywhere else except the same coral if photos were taken every single time they came out from the coral. So much so, every time if you take the pictures even a new fish of the same kind comes in, they'll be doing the same. If the numbers of fish are more at a single shot, the points will be more. My highest score using this method was 200,000, which was more than 6 times the average score after I knew that. Ever since then, every time I play using that method, my scores were never below 30,000.

I learnt a very important lesson which I have been applying in my life especially in my line of business which I feel a lot of people fail to understand. Ever wonder why some people are making more money than others? Ever wonder why some people are better in their production than others? Ever wonder why some people have better results than others? Ever wonder why some people have a better lifestyle than others? I often hear some people who are broke or unsuccessful in anything they do blaming on luck. It is always,"Maybe they are luckier" but seriously, I know one thing for sure, if someone is doing far better than me, it is not because I am stupid or out of luck. It is just because they know how to do it and I haven't found out how to do so yet. If I am persistent enough to learn the trick how to do it, I will be as good as them or even better. Sometimes it takes time to know how, that's why being persistent to learn is very important. Sometimes it takes a shorter time to know how if I can find a mentor who knows how. One thing for sure is that, once I know how, I will forever know how and can never go back to the times when I am under performing.

Just like the score for the Fotoquest game that I played. I can never score lower than what I used to score unless I purposely do so.....

Conversation with God

This is something one of my friends shared which I intend to remember forever...

I have been asked many times the following question, "When is it 'disempowering' to offer help to a friend, family member, a loved one or a fellow colleague?"
My answer most of the time is, "I have no specific answer to the question unless I understand the full context of the situation." and sometimes my answer perturbed some people!

Yesterday, while reading Conversations with God, Book 2 by Neale Donald Walsch, I got the answer at Page 161.Neale Donald Walsch asked God:When is it disempowering to offer help? When does it work against, rather than for, another's growth?" God replied:When your help is offered in such a way that it creates continued dependence, rather than rapid independence. When you allow another, in the name of compassion, to begin to rely on you rather on themselves. That is not compassion, that is compulsion. You have a power of compulsion. Because that sort of helping is really power-tripping.

Now, this distinction can be very subtle here, and sometimes you don't even know you are power-tripping. You really believe you are simply doing your best to help another... yet be careful that you are not simply seeking to create your own self worth. For to the extent that you allow other persons to make YOU responsible for them, to that extent you have allowed them to make you powerful. And that, of course, makes you feel worthy.Yet, this kind of help is an aphrodisiac which seduces the weak. The goal is to help the weak grow strong, not to let the weak becomes weaker. Earlier, in the same book, on Page 159, God says the following;Oh, yes - what to do with the less fortunate.

First, decide Who and What You Are in Relationship to them. Second, if you decide you wish to experience yourself as being Succor, as being Help, as being Love, and Compassion and Caring, then look to see how you can best be those things. And notice that your ability to be those things has nothing to do with what others are being or doing.Sometimes, the best way to love someone, and the most help you can give, is to leave them alone or empower them to help themselves. It is like a feast. Life is a smogasboard, and you can give them a big helping of themselves.

Remember that the greatest help you can give a person is to wake them up, to remind them of Who They Really Are. There are many ways to do this. Sometimes with a little bit of help; a push, a shove, a nudge... and sometimes with a decision to let them run their course, follow their path, walk their walk, without any interference or intervention from you. (All parents know about this choice and agonize over it daily.)What you have the opportunity to do for the less fortunate is to re-mind them. That is, cause them to be of a New Mind about themselves. And you, too, have to be of a New Mind about them, for if you see them as an unfortunate, they will.
For more details, I highly recommend that you get and read all the three books of Conversation with God and visit the website at http://www.cwg.org/This is what I feel like sharing.

With love and passion...
Stay driven!
Moonshi